Wednesday, January 7, 2009

Busy Mom Blues

It has been a while since my last post and as much as I'd like to blame it all on the holidays, the fact is that I have come down with a case of what I call the Busy Mom Blues. I'm sure all moms (and even women who aren't moms) can relate. I can only describe it as feeling blah all the time--I'm not really tired, but still I have no energy or motivation-- and yet I find myself constantly on the go working hard at everything on the To Do List while adding more to it--up by 7 but not asleep until 2 or 3--Busy Mom Blues.
This particular strand has hit me pretty hard, although I try not to let the hubby or kids know it. For weeks I've been in the process of starting up my online boutique Chic Bebe Couture and have hit too many bumps in the road to count. We have discovered that the house we are renting is being foreclosed and our landlord never thought it might be considerate to let us know that we would need to find another place to live. So we are currently packing up and house hunting. The hubby's job is really getting old because of his traveling all the time so I'm begging him to find something else. And on and on and on.

I'm not usually the type to complain--hence the diagnosis of Busy Mom Blues.

What is the cure you ask? I'm not really sure. It usually just goes away with time. Thankfully, it doesn't happen that often.

So, thanks to all my readers and SITstas for letting me vent. I think I'll go take a bubble bath and try to forget about that To Do List.

93 comments:

Lori of I'm no super Mom said...

Oh girl do I ever feel your pain! I have had the same road for a bit now, and I started taking a b complex vitamin and it seems to be helping the energy and blah feeling at least. I really just wish it would teach me to say NO but I keep agreeing to more projects and events! I hope everything improves for you and goes smoothly!

Jacie said...

Thanks, Lori. You're right, saying "NO!" to a few things would help. I just have to learn how. I tend to battle with guilt when I do say no so I just say yes too much. Hopefully things will calm down soon and get back to normal.
Thanks again for the support. It's nice to have other moms say "oh yeah, I've been there."

michelle said...

I hear you girl! I think it's totally normal this time of year. The holidays are over and it's like...now what!?! But hey, congrats on the new website! It is going to be amazing.

Melissa Papaj Photography said...

I totally hear ya! Sorry you're going through such a difficult time! Found you on SITS!

JessicaMarie said...

Big changes are tough, and it totally sucks that the moving change was thrust upon you =( I wish I could offer some advice, but I'm pretty inexperienced in these matters. Good luck, I hope everything works out!

Stesha said...

Its seems like I have had them for the last 3 years..lol

mommytoalot said...

Oh yes..the busy mom blues..i hear ya..January is especially bad for that.
Sure hope things get quieter for ya.
Love your boutique

Justine said...

So THAT's what this strange affliction is called! Although in my case, it's more LAZY Momy Blues.

Justine :o )
Congrats on your SITS day!

Belle (from Life of a...) said...

Good Morning...Happy SITS Day to you. What a wonderful compliment to be featured. Have a great day!

Mandy said...

Congrats on your SITS day and your new website!

Brenda Jean said...

I've been there too, and all I can say is take time for yourself no matter what. You need time to collect your thoughts and rest. Especially when stressful things are happening:) HUGS...I'll head over to look at your new shop.

Louisa said...

Good to hear that this is a common experience though I hope you move out of it soon! Enjoy 'your day'!

Tara said...

We've all been there.....but it's so nice to have the freedom to come back to life and be at home with our families. ♥♥♥

Preston said...

Hey, I think your busy Mom blues actually crosses over to both sexes. I felt the same way. The holidays are over; it's cold and drab; the days are short. I've just now started to feel a slight upswing. Happy SITS day!

Thrifty and Chic Mom said...

Hang in there we all have those days ( I mean weeks) things will be better soon and then you can look back and laugh at your worries. Good luck with your new boutique and with house hunting!

Crazy Momma said...

I hear you!

I don't have a cure but promise that venting always helps :)

Cricket said...

I can soooo relate...I don't have any kids, but I feel the same way...never enough time, and always still too much to do!

Happy SITSday! :)

Stacy's Random Thoughts said...

You are not alone! I think we've all been through the Busy Mom Blues...

Congrats on being Saucy! ;)

Lisa M said...

Oh SITSta, I can so relate too. I'm there right now with you. Our bodies are amazing and they take a lickin' but keep on tickin'. You've definately got the right idea. Let the bath melt your blues away.

Good luck on the store.. going to check it out now!

Lisa M
www.lisaandben.com/blog

Mimi said...

Yep, a bubble bath is the way to go!

Columbia Lily said...

I'm not a mom, but I get this disease too, especially in the winter and after Christmas. Hope you get better soon!

♥spoiled mommy♥ said...

Im totally with ya!
Been there...a nice bubble bath sounds good.

Margaret said...

I think we have all been there. I hate those days when the energy just isn't coming.

That really stinks about your house.

Tiffany said...

I can definitely relate! I think we all feel that from time to time.

Cammie said...

Happy SITS day.....I clicked on your boutique link and had to favorite it quickly so I can come back.....SUPER CUTE STUFF

Emilee Grace Co. said...

Oh, that was me yesterday! I own an online boutique also and can totally relate to "bumps in the road". Maybe we can exchange links? http://www.emileegrace.com

Lots of luck with your new business and your house hunting. Hugs!

Lisa @ Crazy Adventures in Parenting said...

I think we're all there. Especially after not 'feelin' the holidays, the new year, which usually fills us with promise and a fresh start, has been much of the same, instead. *hugs* to you!

Jamie said...

Congratulations on your SITS day!

anti-supermom said...

Well hopefully this saucy day will brighten your outlook

Lisa Human: Human Touch Designs said...

Bubble bath sounds like a great start to a cure to me! Happy SITS day!

ScrappinAway said...

Oh my, I really feel bad, I read your posts leaving this one for last and on the potty training one I asked for some advice. Please, please ignore that request, you have waaaaayyyy to much to do! I wish you this best of luck finding a new place. Hopefully if your real estate market is like ours you should have a lot to choose from!

Vickie said...

I always get the busy mom blues after the holidays.
A nice warm bubble bath while eating chocolate sounds wonderful.
I hope things are looking up and running more smoothly for you.

Happy SITS Day!

Kelly Deneen said...

Ugh. The busy mom blues are so real (and now I'm glad I have a name to call them). Hopefully now that your boutique is up, you'll have a bit more time to yourself. I think that helps. :)

Heather said...

I think a bubble bath sounds like heaven. Happy SITS Day!!

Anna Lefler said...

Oh, I can relate! Good luck with your new venture!

:^) Anna

Melodie said...

Been there, done that, got the t-shirt!

Barb said...

Sometimes all we need to do is vent. Please be encouraged that this, too, shall pass and there are brighter days ahead.

Josiemy said...

I feel ya! I've had those days...weeks...maybe much longer..sometimes the cure for me even after weeks is a trip to target by myself. clears the head!

Tiffany said...

I hope you can get some rest. Congrats on your SITS day!

Kimm said...

Hang in there girl. Enjoy the spotlight today, you deserve it. Be sure to take care of yourself, I also take a B complex vitamin, that seems to help.

Kim said...

Congratulations on being saucy. And Kimm with two m's is right. B-complex does help. I take it, too.

The Eadle Family said...

Hey, congratulations on your SITS day! I have the busy mom blues all the time. Hope everything gets better

Coffee with Cathy said...

Mommyhood is the hardest job ever -- but we're all here with you! Love the black-and-white background on your blog -- it's my favorite pattern for decorating.

Heather said...

It gets overwhelming so fast!

jubilee said...

Love your blog design! Happy SITS day.

I can so relate to the Mama Blues. Reading Psalms seems to help me.

Judy @ In His Grip said...

A bubble bath works for me everytime. Happys SITS day. Mine was yesterday and it blew my socks off.

Jaden Paige said...

I can SO relate! Happy SITS day!

Joy said...

Congrats on your SITS feature and your online boutique!

Charmaine said...

Hooray for hot bubble baths - they make everything better. When I need something a bit more, I add candles and something to read.

blognut said...

Congratulations on your SITS feature!

Rhea said...

The blues stink. I think they're common this time of year. Hang in there. It will pass.

Brandy said...

We all have days like that. Ironically my post today is titled "Highs and Lows" because life is not perfect...and it's the lows that make you appreciate the highs.

Good luck with the move!

penguinsandladybugs said...

And how unique these blues are....dads don't get these kinds of blues as often as moms do!

Karol said...

So that's the name of it? Busy Mom Blues. I feel ya, working full time at night, kids during the day...oh it's draining.

We survive. We roll on. We will conquer.

Happy SITS day!

hellosweetworld said...

I'm not a mom and still feel ya. I think it's just being a woman...eek! Happy SITS day!

Lea Ann said...

If it weren't for the hopefulness of today's inauguration, I'd be feeling the same way. Happy SITS day!

Reeni♥ said...

Came to say hi from SITS! I hope things slow up for you soon. Enjoy your day of being saucy!!

Michele said...

Lots of warm fuzzies sent your way!Enjoy your day!

Kendra said...

Goodness do I know what you mean. I think I have this at least once a month where its all I can do to feed my family let alone myself. Glad I'm not the only one :)

Happy SITS day!

Andrea said...

I hear ya. It can be hard. But it does go away after awhile.

Betsy said...

Bubble Baths cure everything!!!!

Sarah J. said...

I completely feel your pain! Somedays I feel so busy and I look around and my house is STILL a mess and I wonder, what I did all day that made me so tired!

Ali said...

I was feeling that way yesterday after having such a busy weekend and having a slight cold my house was a mess! And when my house is overly cluttered, so is my mind. I'm hoping this week I can declutter my house, my mind, and my blog reader--I'm so behind! I think I need a bubble bath too!

Leslie said...

Starting a new business will zap your energy! Just keep at it! Looks like you have some really cute things. Hope you find a house soon!

mrsbear said...

Hope you got that bubble bath you deserve. I can relate to the Busy Mom Blue, I think we all can. Happy SITS day.

The Sweet Jelly Bean said...

What is it about bubble baths? They really do seem to help!

CDB said...

Oh, how I can relate to this. Not enough time in the day to get everything done, not having a choice but to try, and not having a moment for ourselves. The plight of us Moms. I try to hold onto the tenet that some day, I'll look back and cherish this [often frustrating] time!

There is much support in these comments. Plus, today is a very exciting day for the country! Good luck with the house search.

Katie said...

Isn't it always the case, when it rains it pours! I'm sorry to hear you've got a lot on your plate right now. But I promise it'll get better eventually. Good luck on the start up of your business.

lynn said...

Happy SITS day!

I can so relate with the Mom Blues! I get them way too often!

Oh2122 said...

Oh, honey. What a butthead that guy is!

I hope things work out for you guys ASAP!

Btw, your boutique is FAB!

Rachel said...

I can totally relate. I am also in the beginning stages of my business (Photography) and I have been hit with the busy mom blues as well. The lack of motivation is a killer. I hope for you the blues stay away! Good luck with your new venture. I look forward to browsing your products and finding new and exciting stuff for my baby girl! I am a bow and tutu addict!

VintageChicChick said...

I can totally relate to this! I feel like I'm currently going through this... so many worries and to dos! Hope you find a home quickly and the move is an easy one. :)
-Sarah-

sandy said...

Bubble baths are the best cure:)

Sherrie said...

Awww...I hope you're feeling better by now. And -- it happens to all of us. We all have those days. Stay strong! Happy SITS day to you!

angie said...

Hopefully those days are few and far between!

San said...

Yeah - I have that Busy Mom syndrome too ... once in a while... like maybe every week or so... make that practically every day! ;)

Michelle said...

You mean the kind of tired where it's 7:54 and I was nodding off earlier? Yah.

Oh, and the cure that involves the bath... try it with a glass of wine and just one piece of really good chocolate. It helps. A lot.

Finding Normal said...

Happy SITS Day!
I hope you find some time to yourself. Bubble bath, bed with a book, lotion on feet with socks, glass of wine or hunk of chocolate. Whatever it is that you need. Take time for yourself.

Leslie said...

Ugh! I hope it goes away quickly for you. Definitely try to make time for you. Even if it's just the bubble bath, a walk around the block, a glass of wine, a piece of chocolate. Make the time to decompress. You'll be glad you did!

- a SITSta

Maricris said...

You're not alone. We all go through the same thing but it gets better after a while.

Reluctant Housewife said...

Good idea! A nice hot bubble bath always helps me when the blues hit. I hope you have a great book or a fun magazine to take with you. And a cup of tea... or wine.

Erika said...

I can't add anything to the other comments, but I just wanted to say I'm right there with ya!!

Hairline Fracture said...

I know the feeling of not really being tired, but not having any energy or motivation. I try to take some time to recharge and eventually my energy comes back.

Jeanne said...

With no more sleep than you're getting, you should be tired! Give yourself a break, child. (I'm old, so I get to be grandmotherly.) Seriously -- take care of yourself, or you won't be able to care for your family.

Willo said...

I know that feeling. When I get it, I find it is always telling me to find balance...easier said then done, right? I wanted to tell you your things are BEAUTIFUL!

Blue Castle said...

Having a husband who travels a lot too, I can feel your pain a little. I do hope things get better soon. Hang in there. :)

Elizabeth M Thompson said...

I said a prayer for you after reading your blog this morning.

Lynn said...

Finally, a name to go with my symptoms! I know that it's not only me now. I kind of wait it out and try to exercise and get more sunshine into my system. Nice post.
My best, Lynn

jen.at.work said...

I can TOTALLY relate. I love the name. Hope you don' t mind that I'm going to diagnose myself with it on my blog...giving you credit of course!

Aubrey said...

Coming over from SITS with some *hugs*! Hang in there and I hope the Busy Mom Blues pass soon!

Shannon said...

I'm currently dealing with being in some sort of funk... don't know if it's just post-holiday letdown or what, but I've been feeling so blah lately!

Ugh.


Anyhoo... hope you had a great SITS day :)

Michelle said...

I'm sorry you are having one of those times...I think we all get them. You know what helps me? Getting out of the house and letting things go for a while. Just taking some time off and enjoying life.

CoffeeJitters.Net (Judy Haley) said...

it's amazing what a difference a bubble bath can make. I've been having a bit of a bout with that too: I'm 7 months pregnant, I'm a full time college student, we're moving in 2 weeks and there's something else that I'm forgetting at the moment but it can't be all that important or it would be chomping big bites out of my brain too. or maybe it is and that's why I can't remember... yup, time for a bubble bath